Now let's talk bout my personal issue.
Well, not really an issue for me but since few of my friends are currently having this type of problem, I as well talk a little bit bout it.
F-R-I-E-N-D-S-H-I-P
The Girl Boy Thang.
Well, I didn't mean Girls and Boys can't be close friends. And I'm not judging any girls out there who have guy best friend. However, here's some opinions I think it's really good and effective ways to not ruin your friendships.
" The Rules and Regulations "
Well, not really an issue for me but since few of my friends are currently having this type of problem, I as well talk a little bit bout it.
F-R-I-E-N-D-S-H-I-P
The Girl Boy Thang.
Well, I didn't mean Girls and Boys can't be close friends. And I'm not judging any girls out there who have guy best friend. However, here's some opinions I think it's really good and effective ways to not ruin your friendships.
" The Rules and Regulations "
THE DON'T(s)
(1) Don't be touchy.
- Girls are especially moved by the sense of touch. If he's holding your hand more than he should, then it's timeto keep them in your pockets.
(2) Don't get too close for comfort.
- More so, if you are in a relationship. Watch for how close you sit with each other, and remember sitting on each other lap is just NOT acceptable.
- More so, if you are in a relationship. Watch for how close you sit with each other, and remember sitting on each other lap is just NOT acceptable.
(3) Don't play along.
- Flirting is a big no-no ! Even if he initiates it, don't just go along for the ride; stop him in his tracks.
- Flirting is a big no-no ! Even if he initiates it, don't just go along for the ride; stop him in his tracks.
(4) Don't care.
- " What if's " tend to pop up after you've been badgered ! As long as you are confident in your friendship, you don't need anyone else's approval.
- " What if's " tend to pop up after you've been badgered ! As long as you are confident in your friendship, you don't need anyone else's approval.
THE DO(s)
(1) Keep those claws retracted.
- Do not start a catfight with his girl ! Even if you don't love her, you don't have to hate her. He has a right to date anyone he likes. Just be there for him as a friend.
- Do not start a catfight with his girl ! Even if you don't love her, you don't have to hate her. He has a right to date anyone he likes. Just be there for him as a friend.
(2) Stay honest.
- This isn't an option. The moment feelings, doubts arise, you should talk it out. Leaving feelings unsaid will just allow them to brew. ( Also be honest, with your partners. You wouldn't want your boy to feel threatened by your guy-friend--and vise versa--)
- This isn't an option. The moment feelings, doubts arise, you should talk it out. Leaving feelings unsaid will just allow them to brew. ( Also be honest, with your partners. You wouldn't want your boy to feel threatened by your guy-friend--and vise versa--)
(3) Be a groupie.
- Stick to groups, rather than one-on-one outings. This way you don't cross any lines and solidify the fact that it isn't an exclusive companionship.
- Stick to groups, rather than one-on-one outings. This way you don't cross any lines and solidify the fact that it isn't an exclusive companionship.
(4) Balance it out.
- You can play futsal with the guys, but yo riends come in handy ( and for a lot more ).
- You can play futsal with the guys, but yo riends come in handy ( and for a lot more ).
(5) Keep the envy in check.
- Being jealous of your friend's girl doesn't mean you want to be with him. It's simply the fear of losing that closeness due to someone new.
- Being jealous of your friend's girl doesn't mean you want to be with him. It's simply the fear of losing that closeness due to someone new.
and now, What if both you + your best friend like the same guy (and vice versa) ?
Your Game Plan :
Your Game Plan :
(1) Wait for the next catch.
- If you think that the way you feel about that guy is just a simple crush and nothing more, then maybe you should abide by the saying "there are many fishes in the sea". A good friendship is not easy to come by, and to risk it on a mere crush is certainly not worth in.
- If you think that the way you feel about that guy is just a simple crush and nothing more, then maybe you should abide by the saying "there are many fishes in the sea". A good friendship is not easy to come by, and to risk it on a mere crush is certainly not worth in.
(2) Cast your net.
- The chances are that he may like ONE of you, but you'll never know until you both give it a go. If you two give it a fighting chance, then at least it's fair. If you've got the guts, go ahead and talk to him ! While jealousy is probably inevitable, if your friendship is strong, it will withstand the uneasy and uncomfortable period.
- The chances are that he may like ONE of you, but you'll never know until you both give it a go. If you two give it a fighting chance, then at least it's fair. If you've got the guts, go ahead and talk to him ! While jealousy is probably inevitable, if your friendship is strong, it will withstand the uneasy and uncomfortable period.
(3) Just decide.
- Which one of you really does like him ? Talk it out with each other, then give it your best shot. If it happens, it happens. Otherwise, you still have a shoulder to cry on.
- Which one of you really does like him ? Talk it out with each other, then give it your best shot. If it happens, it happens. Otherwise, you still have a shoulder to cry on.
and lastly, your dearest BFFs.
Losing touch with friends happens all the time. Sometimes, we drift away because of distance, a change in circumstances or a shift in interests and priorities.
Friends are important because they give us strength, encouragement and support.
Ending friendship can be hard to do, even if you have bad friends or frail friendships. Here's some tips to share with you guys !
Steps to Ending a Friendship.
You've identified that maybe you shouldn't keep her around. But before keeping a decision,
ask yourself;
(2) Does she use me ? If she's only interested in asking you to do something for her, it's time to re-evaluate what her intentions are in this friendship.
Losing touch with friends happens all the time. Sometimes, we drift away because of distance, a change in circumstances or a shift in interests and priorities.
Friends are important because they give us strength, encouragement and support.
Ending friendship can be hard to do, even if you have bad friends or frail friendships. Here's some tips to share with you guys !
Steps to Ending a Friendship.
You've identified that maybe you shouldn't keep her around. But before keeping a decision,
ask yourself;
(1) Does she contact you, or are you making all the effort ? With all the advancements in technology, there's no excuse not to contact a friend.
(2) Does she use me ? If she's only interested in asking you to do something for her, it's time to re-evaluate what her intentions are in this friendship.
(3) Does she lie to me ? When you can't trust a friend to be honest with you, the friendship is on shaky ground and headed for disaster.
(4) Is she there when you need her ? True friends are the ones who call to ask if you're ok, ask you what you need, and are there to support you.
(4) Is she there when you need her ? True friends are the ones who call to ask if you're ok, ask you what you need, and are there to support you.
MOST Important, NOT Worth Saving the friendship when :
(1) Ze Backstabber
- Whether it's something as obvious as starting a malicious rumour about you, sabotaging you or giving you the silent treatment for no reason, it is clear that she is out to hurt you on purpose. If she hangs up the phone or leaves texts and emails unanswered, then she is truly not worth your time.
- Even if you're not her victims, you might want to think twice about being friends with someone who is capable of treating others like that.
(2) The User
- She asks you for favours all the time and doesn't help you when you need it most. Friendships are about give-and-take, and if she's always the one taking, you'll know she doesn't have your interests or feelings in mind. Stop being her safety net !
- If you DO remain friends, be prepared for a very lopsided friendship where you can't rely on her. Is this the kind of friend you want ? Think about it.
Credit given to * Seventeen Magazine *
xoxoxoxo, Kelly.
- Whether it's something as obvious as starting a malicious rumour about you, sabotaging you or giving you the silent treatment for no reason, it is clear that she is out to hurt you on purpose. If she hangs up the phone or leaves texts and emails unanswered, then she is truly not worth your time.
- Even if you're not her victims, you might want to think twice about being friends with someone who is capable of treating others like that.
(2) The User
- She asks you for favours all the time and doesn't help you when you need it most. Friendships are about give-and-take, and if she's always the one taking, you'll know she doesn't have your interests or feelings in mind. Stop being her safety net !
- If you DO remain friends, be prepared for a very lopsided friendship where you can't rely on her. Is this the kind of friend you want ? Think about it.
Credit given to * Seventeen Magazine *
xoxoxoxo, Kelly.
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